Ever since my mother and I attended our joint counseling session last December, my perspective about our relationship has been slowly changing. Through my own counseling, I realized that I have taken too much responsibility in trying to improve her situation while damaging my well-being, my finances, and my relationships. What’s more astounding is that I have been doing this for a decade.
As for my mother’s current well-being, it has not improved since our initial session. She will not go back to her counselor and she is still showing every symptom of a serious depression. I want to help her, but I now know that it’s not possible if she does not want help. I have been conditioned to pick up the pieces everytime something shatters and now I’m reconditioning myself to enlist others to help, so I am not carrying all of the burden and worry.
Easier said than done, but what a massive relief!